In our current society of non-stop networking, introductions have taken on a simplistic format. If someone wants to introduce an acquaintance, they can easily say something along the lines of: “Sally meet Harry. Harry meet Sally“. But did you know there are rules to follow when doing a proper introduction?

THE ART OF INTRODUCTIONS by Balissande Finishing School

Here are a few rules to follow when introducing strangers…

1.. Look at the person you want to address first in your introduction, and then turn your gaze to the other person as you complete the introduction. Don’t forget to smile and speak clearly.

2. Always use polite language. For example, it would be proper to say: “Let me introduce you to”, “I’d like you to meet”, and “May I introduce you to”. In formal settings, “May I present” is a great option. When introducing people, remember to take responsibility of the introduction by claiming it with “I” or “me”.

3. Always use titles and last names like “Mr. Meyer”, “Miss Givens”, “Mrs. Hope”. When introducing younger people in informal settings, this rule can be relaxed. Since the younger generation are very informal today, they most often would prefer you to use both their first and last names. For example, it would be proper to say, “Betty, this is Susan Jones. Susan, this is Betty Michaels”.

4. Introduce gentlemen to ladies rather than ladies to gentlemen. For example, it would be proper to say, “Miss Edwards let me introduce you to Mr. Smith”.

5. Introduce the inferior to the superior when the genders are the same. For example, it would be proper to say, “Governor Edwards let me introduce you to Mr. Smith.”. Also, introduce single ladies to the matrons, and younger people to older people.

6. When introducing a family member to a stranger, always say their relation to you and their name. For example, “my father, Mr. Smith”, “my daughter, Miss Collins”, “my brother, Mr. Jones”. Remember to always say their surname. There may be multiple fathers, mothers, siblings, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Specification helps avoid embarrassing confusions.

Sometimes, introductions don’t go as planned. If this happens, don’t get upset. Smile and move on. Look at the experience as a chance to improve your skills. And move on.