THE HISTORY OF ETIQUETTE: FROM EGYPT TO EUROPE

Etiquette: a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group. ~ The idea of teaching etiquette or a code of behavior is not new, nor is the idea that mankind needs a finishing touch - extra schooling to better navigate society and … Continue reading THE HISTORY OF ETIQUETTE: FROM EGYPT TO EUROPE

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ARGUING AND CRITICIZING IN PUBLIC: AN ANECDOTE

ARGUING AND CRITICIZING IN PUBLIC: AN ANECDOTE

“I don’t want to accept that invitation,” a friend of mine said to me one morning recently, when the postman brought her a week end invitation as we sat together on her porch. “Why not? I thought they had a lovely big house.” “They have, but the last time we went there, X found so … Continue reading ARGUING AND CRITICIZING IN PUBLIC: AN ANECDOTE

ETIQUETTE: TOP 3 RULES FOR ATTENDING ART EVENTS

Attending art events can be daunting for the newbie. There are rules to follow. Conversations to be had. And while doing all that, you are supposed to display a certain amount of savoir-vivre. For some, it can be a bit too much. So, for the newbie, we recommend you start out slow. Learn the basics. … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: TOP 3 RULES FOR ATTENDING ART EVENTS

EXAMPLES OF LOW BREEDING

Did you ever watch a group of young people chattering to each other while some older person sat silent in their midst, almost as much ignored as if he or she were invisible? It is a sight I see every once in a while and it always fills me with a combination of sadness and … Continue reading EXAMPLES OF LOW BREEDING

The Modern Calling and Visiting Card

THE MODERN CALLING AND VISITING CARD

A calling card, also known as a visiting card, is a small card with one's name printed on it. The calling card was a social necessity in 18th-19th century American and Western European upper societies. They were as much utilitarian objects as they were status symbols. Calling cards were carried by both men and women … Continue reading THE MODERN CALLING AND VISITING CARD

REMINDER: 12 BASIC DINING ETIQUETTE RULES

REMINDER: 12 BASIC DINING ETIQUETTE RULES

We haven't done a dining etiquette post for awhile. So, today we’d like to re-visit some dinner etiquette rules. 1.. Do not bite into a bread roll. Instead, break off a piece of your bread and eat it. 2. Do not butter a large piece of bread and then bite into it. Only butter the … Continue reading REMINDER: 12 BASIC DINING ETIQUETTE RULES

VISITING CARDS: WHAT ARE THEY?

VISITING CARDS: WHAT ARE THEY?

A visiting card, also called calling card, is a small card with one's name printed on it. It was carried by both men and women in the 18th and 19th century as a way to announce themselves in an acquaintance's home or to request an invitation to visit. "The essential convention was that a first … Continue reading VISITING CARDS: WHAT ARE THEY?

COUNTRY HOUSE ETIQUETTE: 9 TIPS FOR THE SUMMER GUEST

Ever wondered if there were rules for spending the week-end at a country estate in the early 1900s? If yes, you'll be happy to read this short guide on rules and practices for such occasions. If you have been invited to a week end gathering this summer, know that many of the rules still apply, … Continue reading COUNTRY HOUSE ETIQUETTE: 9 TIPS FOR THE SUMMER GUEST

8 Week Elegant Deportment Course

8 WEEK DEPORTMENT COURSE

Hello ladies! We want to let you know that we are now offering a course on elegant deportment. You can find it in our internet classroom. We've been working on it for several weeks. And we are so excited that we were able to do it. We have taken the time to gather much information, … Continue reading 8 WEEK DEPORTMENT COURSE

WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR NAPKIN AT A DINING TABLE

WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR NAPKIN AT A DINING TABLE

Ever sat down at a dining table and didn't know what to do with your napkin? Well here are a few rules of etiquette to help you the next time you are faced with one. Let's begin! The minute you sit down at the dining table, the first thing you should do is: lay your … Continue reading WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR NAPKIN AT A DINING TABLE

17 BEHAVIORS A LADY SHOULD ELIMINATE

Finishing school is not just about learning etiquette, it is also about learning how to become a better person. Because in the end, there are certain personality traits and behaviours that will render etiquette lessons difficult to learn as well as decrease the impact of those that were learned. For this reason, we want to … Continue reading 17 BEHAVIORS A LADY SHOULD ELIMINATE

VIDEO: HOW TO SET THE TABLE FOR A 3 COURSE DINNER

VIDEO: HOW TO SET THE TABLE FOR A 3 COURSE DINNER

Three course meals are very popular. You will have experienced a version of it at most mid to high-end restaurants. For example, a meal with a salad course, main course, and dessert course served separately would constitute a 3 course meal. For this reason, they are essential for most formal dinners. Every lady should know, … Continue reading VIDEO: HOW TO SET THE TABLE FOR A 3 COURSE DINNER

HOW TO SHAKE HANDS LIKE A LADY

Shaking hands is part of the first impression. The first impression begins with your appearance. And then, the way you greet others. There are a few ways to greet others - a hug, a nod, a kiss on the cheek, prayer hands, and the hand shake. For this post, we are going to break down … Continue reading HOW TO SHAKE HANDS LIKE A LADY

FINISHING SCHOOL TRAINING: HOW TO DESIGN & HOST SOCIETY DINNERS

FINISHING SCHOOL COURSE: HOW TO HOST PROFESSIONAL & SOCIETY DINNERS

Hello ladies! We are excited to say, we now have a tutorial available for designing and hosting dinners. You may be asking: how is it different from the articles we have already posted on this site for dinners? Well, this course is an intensive level course created for ladies who have the desire to hostess … Continue reading FINISHING SCHOOL COURSE: HOW TO HOST PROFESSIONAL & SOCIETY DINNERS

ONLINE COURSE: HOW TO DESIGN & HOST DINNERS

ONLINE COURSE: HOW TO DESIGN & HOST PROFESSIONAL AND SOCIETY DINNERS

Hello ladies! We are excited to say, we now have a tutorial available for designing and hosting dinners. You may be asking: how is it different from the articles we have already posted on this site for dinners? Well, this course is an intensive level course created for ladies who have the desire to hostess … Continue reading ONLINE COURSE: HOW TO DESIGN & HOST PROFESSIONAL AND SOCIETY DINNERS

ETIQUETTE: 20 TIPS FOR ATTENDING A FORMAL DINNER

ETIQUETTE: 20 TIPS FOR ATTENDING A FORMAL DINNER

Dinner parties are fun affairs. They are the perfect events for us ladies to dress up, meet new people, practice our manners, have great conversations, and eat wonderful food. So, let's discuss our responsibilities at such events. Just like hostesses have a responsibility to their guests, so do guests have a responsibility to their hostesses. … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: 20 TIPS FOR ATTENDING A FORMAL DINNER

21 Tips for Diners

ETIQUETTE: 21 RULES FOR DINING

The Holidays are here... Hurray! And with the Holidays come formal dinners. So, we'd like to re-visit some dinner etiquette rules as well as cover a few new ones. For this article, we've collected 21 don'ts from the 1895 book: How to Behave and How to Amuse by G. H. Sandison. We hope you enjoy … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: 21 RULES FOR DINING

ETIQUETTE FOR ATTENDING ART EVENTS: 12 TIPS by Balissande Finishing School

ETIQUETTE FOR ATTENDING ART EVENTS: 12 TIPS

There are many types of art events happening all over a city at a given time. There are art shows, gallery openings, demonstrations, meet-and-greets, auctions, exhibitions, and much more. In this article, we will share a few basic tips that will help you navigate the world of art with ease and pleasure. 1.. When attending … Continue reading ETIQUETTE FOR ATTENDING ART EVENTS: 12 TIPS

THE ART OF CONVERSATION

To converse well requires more than mere information, knowledge, or a facility of expression. There must also be sound judgment and a good heart, for without these all other triumphs are hollow and delusive. Our conversation should be agreeable to others. The subject of it should be appropriate to the time, place, and company. We … Continue reading THE ART OF CONVERSATION

FORMAL BRITISH TABLE SETTING: A HOW TO GUIDE WITH TIPS

HOW TO SET A FORMAL TABLE: 4 EXAMPLES

Are you interested in throwing a formal dinner? If so, we hope you will enjoy this post. We scoured the internet looking for great videos showing how to lay formal settings and how these settings can look once set. The first table setting is by Luis, the butler at Highclere Castle. Luis has been working … Continue reading HOW TO SET A FORMAL TABLE: 4 EXAMPLES

VIDEO: BASIC RULES FOR PAIRING FOOD WITH WINE

Every hostess should become familiar with the various wines available and how to pair them with food. Even if you are not much of a drinker, you should learn the basics. So, we've gathered three videos below for you to watch. We hope you enjoy them! Conquer the art of wining and dining with these … Continue reading VIDEO: BASIC RULES FOR PAIRING FOOD WITH WINE

HOW TO HOST A FUN DINNER PARTY: 13 TIPS

HOW TO HOST A FUN DINNER PARTY: 14 TIPS

Too many dinner parties are somber affairs. Why should they be? When one is dressed to the nines, chandeliers are lit, and the dishes approaching the table are culinary masterpieces, why should one look like they are in the midst of paying an obligation? We, at Balissande Finishing School, are all for cheerful, memorable dinner … Continue reading HOW TO HOST A FUN DINNER PARTY: 14 TIPS

7 STEPS TO THROWING A FORMAL DINNER

Throwing a formal dinner party is always fun. It's one of those few times your home will look magical. The chandelier in your dining room will be lit, creating sparkles and twinkles up and down your table. The fresh scent of flowers will float through the room, waiting for the arrival of guests, fancily attired, … Continue reading 7 STEPS TO THROWING A FORMAL DINNER

FORMAL DINING TABLE DECORATION: 13 DONT’S

Formal dining tables are like the human body. They must be maintained, polished, and dressed with care and consideration to look their best. When throwing a formal dinner, the hostess must do her best to make sure her dining table looks as beautiful as possible while maintaining its functionality. So, we've gathered 13 tips that … Continue reading FORMAL DINING TABLE DECORATION: 13 DONT’S

ETIQUETTE: HOW TO SAY A PROPER GOOD-BYE

ETIQUETTE: HOW TO SAY A PROPER GOOD-BYE

The final impression you can give a hostess and her guests at an event is your leave-taking. It seems such a minor thing. But in actuality, it means just as much as your entrance and your behaviour throughout the event. It's essentially the cherry on top. So, first and foremost, always say good-bye to your … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: HOW TO SAY A PROPER GOOD-BYE

HOW AND WHY TO DINE WITH STYLE: A 1950's VIDEO ON AMERICAN TABLE MANNERS

HOW AND WHY TO DINE WITH STYLE: A 1950’s VIDEO ON AMERICAN TABLE MANNERS

Today, we want to share a 1951 education film by Retro Detective Want More Retro on American table manners. It's a short tutorial discussing why manners are important and how to practice them. We hope you enjoy this quick trip back into time! "Good table manners matter for several reasons. If each person is busy … Continue reading HOW AND WHY TO DINE WITH STYLE: A 1950’s VIDEO ON AMERICAN TABLE MANNERS

How to Wear Perfume by Balissande Finishing School

HOW TO WEAR PERFUME: 15 TIPS

In America, perfume is often considered a luxury, left sitting in cabinets and on dressers for years on end. But in many countries around the world like France, perfume is clothing. It is style. It is an essential part of everyday life. Ladies put it on immediately after a morning shower and wear it for … Continue reading HOW TO WEAR PERFUME: 15 TIPS

Etiquette: how to bend down by Balissande Finishing School

ETIQUETTE: HOW TO BEND DOWN AND PICK ITEMS OFF THE FLOOR

If you are like most people, you have dropped something on the floor in the last month - a pen, paper, coins, your cellphone. If you are around children often, you probably have had to bend down and talk to them or pick up a bottle or pacifier. Bending down is unavoidable. So, every lady … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: HOW TO BEND DOWN AND PICK ITEMS OFF THE FLOOR

FINISHING SCHOOL: WHAT IT IS

A finishing school is a school for young women that focuses on teaching social graces and upper-class-cultural rites as a preparation for entry into society. The name reflects that it follows on from ordinary school and is intended to complete the education of women with classes primarily on deportment and etiquette, with academic subjects secondary. … Continue reading FINISHING SCHOOL: WHAT IT IS

ETIQUETTE: WHY IT IS IMPORTANT

Nothing is less important than which fork you use. Etiquette is the science of living. It embraces everything. It is ethics. It is honor. - Emily Post Ever visited or lived in a city where workers, neighbors, or drivers were overly rude and callous? Ever gotten mad, annoyed, sad, or stressed out from experiencing this … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: WHY IT IS IMPORTANT

HOW TO SIT LIKE A LADY: 24 TIPS

Have you ever taken a moment to judge how you sit? Do you drop into your chair? Do you slouch? Do you shake your leg or feet? Do you sit with your legs wide open? If you haven't paid attention to how you sit lately, we ask that you spend the next day or two, … Continue reading HOW TO SIT LIKE A LADY: 24 TIPS

HOW TO SET THE TABLE

Can't remember where your soup spoon ought to go? What about your salad fork? Knowing how to set a traditional table can seem like antiquated etiquette -- but it can come in handy! Anna Post, great-great-granddaughter of etiquette expert Emily Post, shows how to set a table with a plate full of tips and tricks … Continue reading HOW TO SET THE TABLE

13 RULES FOR WEARING JEWELRY

Ever wondered if there was a right way to wear jewelry? If yes, you'll be happy to know, there is. Below, we've listed 13 rules on how and when to wear jewelry. But before we begin, we would like to emphasize one key tip: keep it simple in the day, rich at night, and authentic … Continue reading 13 RULES FOR WEARING JEWELRY

PERFUME ETIQUETTE: 8 TIPS

Ever wondered if there was a proper way to wear perfume? If yes, then you'll be interested to know, there is! We've listed 8 basic tips below. So, let's begin! 1.. Wear less. This is the most important rule for wearing perfume. You don't want your scent to precede or succeed you. By wearing just … Continue reading PERFUME ETIQUETTE: 8 TIPS

HOW TO BECOME A GREAT CONVERSATIONALIST: 8 TIPS

"There is no conversation so graceful, so varied, so sparkling, as that of an intellectual and cultivated woman. Excellence in this particular is, indeed, one of the attributes of the sex, and should be cultivated by every gentlewoman who aspires to please in general society." - George Routledge Ever met a well-dressed woman you took … Continue reading HOW TO BECOME A GREAT CONVERSATIONALIST: 8 TIPS

CONVERSATION ETIQUETTE: WHEN TO INTERRUPT

"Do not interrupt people while they are speaking" is a rule you will see in just about every etiquette book. However, contrary to many etiquette books, we at Balissande Finishing School, say there are exceptions to this rule. As a matter of fact, we will go so far to say that the right interruptions can … Continue reading CONVERSATION ETIQUETTE: WHEN TO INTERRUPT

CONVERSATION ETIQUETTE: 26 RULES TO FOLLOW

"There is no conversation so graceful, so varied, so sparkling, as that of an intellectual and cultivated woman." - George Routledge Starting and maintaining a great conversation can be a difficult thing. It certainly causes many anxiety. There are just so many aspects involved - from having enough knowledge to having enough self-control. So, we … Continue reading CONVERSATION ETIQUETTE: 26 RULES TO FOLLOW

ETIQUETTE: 36 RULES FOR VISITING FAMILY AND FRIENDS

When it comes to bonding, there's nothing like visiting the homes of your family and friends. It's a chance to relax, laugh, and catch up on what is happening in each other's lives. It is a special gift that shouldn't ever be abused. Many a relationship has been destroyed by inappropriate and abusive actions during … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: 36 RULES FOR VISITING FAMILY AND FRIENDS

HOW TO RECEIVE LETTERS OF INTRODUCTION

Well, we've written about writing and using letters of introduction. Now, it's time to write about receiving them. As written in earlier articles, letters of introductions are formal methods of introducing an acquaintance to another acquaintance. They should be taken on with great consideration and respect. The same with receiving one. A lady who receives … Continue reading HOW TO RECEIVE LETTERS OF INTRODUCTION

HOW TO USE A LETTER OF INTRODUCTION

When you hear of letters of introduction, you may imagine something from yesteryear. But if you have ever received a letter of recommendation, you have actually received a letter of introduction. The name has changed, but the purpose has remained the same - to certify a person's high moral standards, respectability, honour, kindness, and so … Continue reading HOW TO USE A LETTER OF INTRODUCTION

THE ART OF INTRODUCTIONS IN 6 STEPS

In our current society of non-stop networking, introductions have taken on a simplistic format. If someone wants to introduce an acquaintance, they can easily say something along the lines of: "Sally meet Harry. Harry meet Sally". But did you know there are rules to follow when doing a proper introduction? Here are a few rules … Continue reading THE ART OF INTRODUCTIONS IN 6 STEPS

WRITING LETTERS OF INTRODUCTION

When many think of introduction letters, they think of a time when visiting cards and powdered wigs were en vogue. And they are right. In the 18th and 19th centuries, letters of introduction were an important and necessary way of moving through society, forming business partnerships, and participating in politics. "When Benjamin Franklin served as … Continue reading WRITING LETTERS OF INTRODUCTION

ETIQUETTE: 16 RULES FOR WALKING

In the past, there were very strict rules of etiquette for walking. Today, a lot of those rules have been relaxed. Most major cities have such a large mix of classes, cultures, and fast-paced professionals, it'd be foolish to keep to the strict rules of the past. So, for this article we will discuss rules … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: 16 RULES FOR WALKING

ETIQUETTE: TOP 2 RULES TO FOLLOW

It doesn't matter if you are an aristocrat or a seamstress, if you are a brilliant speaker or a proficient diner, if you are a wine aficionado or an illustrious equestrian, or even if you can quote the poems of Shakespeare and Lord Byron verbatim - all that matters is how you treat people, their … Continue reading ETIQUETTE: TOP 2 RULES TO FOLLOW

15 WAYS TO CULTIVATE GOOD TASTE

Taste (noun) the ability to judge what is of good quality, aesthetically pleasing, or socially appropriate. It's hard to define what is good taste. But when we cross it, we know it. We feel it. We may not know what exactly is so aesthetically pleasing to our senses. But we know it is. Good taste … Continue reading 15 WAYS TO CULTIVATE GOOD TASTE

THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING TASTE

Taste (noun) the ability to judge what is of good quality, aesthetically pleasing, or socially appropriate. Despite the standard definition written above for the word, "taste", we at Balissande Finishing School prefer taking a more philosophical approach. As written above, having (good) taste is generally about being able to judge correctly. But we must ask … Continue reading THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING TASTE

BASIC TABLE SETTING GUIDE: 4 RULES TO REMEMBER

Yes, table settings can be a complicated affair. All you have to do is watch Downton Abbey to see how intense it can get. But i am very happy to say, it doesn't have to always be so. Why? Because basic is in! Rejoice in that! In all seriousness, dining customs have relaxed tremendously. There … Continue reading BASIC TABLE SETTING GUIDE: 4 RULES TO REMEMBER

WHAT IS ETIQUETTE?

Etiquette tends to be one of those words that people cringe and scowl whenever they hear it. It makes people think of reprimands, classism, or "that horrible moment when...". But it doesn't have to be so. The basis of etiquette is being kind, considerate, and respectful. Yes, etiquette is about rules. And although some rules … Continue reading WHAT IS ETIQUETTE?